It is time to thrive. That is much easier said than done!
Human Beings are amazing at surviving.
When Homo Sapiens came into being, survival instincts are what helped us survive the wilderness. Our survival was dependent on our senses, our intelligence, our physiology (which is anchored in survival), and our ability to live in groups. Human groups are called tribes. Our tendencies which came into being because we live(ed) in groups are called “Herd Instincts”, “Survival Instincts” and/or “Tribal Instincts”. Because of these instincts and how they have evolved in modern society it may be difficult to thrive.
A huge part of our psyche is dedicated to analyzing the tribe and how we can fit in and stay in the tribe. We develop many behavioral patterns from our tribal relations. Our senses are trained to help our unconscious define everything that is happening around us in order for us to be safe and navigate life in order to remain safe. This dynamic tries to anticipate what may happen around us and then behave in such a way as to secure future safety. That is right, our natural process pushes us to try to become safe in our future when in reality, we are already safe in the present moment. This can explain why anxiety and stress have been and are constantly rising.
Most people will recognize that fight/flight/freeze/panic instincts are survival instincts, however, many people do not acknowledge the following survival instincts.
Looking for what’s wrong so we can fix it
Acting as if we are not safe (when we actually are safe)
Analyzing if we are good enough and then trying to prove that we are
Analyzing if we are worthy and then trying to prove that we are
Self-Sabotaging in order to stunt us from evolving within the tribe which would make us a target for those who want to be in our place and because we do not believe we are worthy to be where we are in the tribal hierarchy
Defending our position (in the tribe)
Blaming others (So we do not get kicked out of tribe)
Being judgmental (so we can feel worthy of being in the tribe)
Keeping outsiders out of our tribe
Destroying outsiders for the safety of the tribe
Define our “status” to ascertain if we are secure in the tribe (So we don’t get kicked out)
Manipulate others in order to move up or stay in the tribe
Live contrary to our true selves in order to fit in
Become major people pleasers in order to be able to stay in the tribe’
Putting others down or being mean to them in order to elevate our status, shift attention to others, or get others kicked out.
Being overly concerned with others’ opinions of us
Not trying due to fear of failure
Fear of failure